Friday, August 25, 2017

Where My Single Ladies At?


WHERE MY SINGLE LADIES? 

Let's just address the elephant in the room right? The thing that people don't really talk about much... they do however talk about how much they think "so and so is right for you" or "don't worry hun you'll find someone soon" as if you need someone to find. Like being single is some sort of flu and everyone around you is just waiting for you to get better. As a girl whose in her mid twenties, whose been single for quite sometime I just want to shed light on how important it is to be single. To find who you are without anyone else. I think it's important to shed light on LOVING YOURSELF first because, without that how are you supposed to love another? What we do far too often is hop from one relationship to another trying to find ourselves in them...and praying to God hopefully he's "the one". When in reality he's not even the slightest bit for you, but you try to validate and settle for less than you deserve. 

 So ask yourself this...have you ever been incredibly single; to where you're not thinking of anyone? No thoughts of whatever his or her name are lingering in that head of yours. I'm talking single. Have you even ever been that single? 


I have and it's definitely taught me a lot! I just want women and young girls to feel empowered. To not depend or feel the need to be completed by another; because girl you complete yourself! You do not need anyone to feel complete, remember that. For as long as I remember at a young age us girls are told to find Prince Charming and the second you do your life will magically be complete. Happily Ever After; The End. So if that doesn't happen we're some sort of failures...at least society makes us feel that way. God forbid if you're single lets find you a man REAL QUICK. I think that way of thinking is ridiculous. Where's the YOU NEED TO BE SINGLE TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU WANT LESSON? Many of us skip that lesson or aren't even aware it exists and that saddens me.  Or girls just stay in these horrible relationships because they rather be taken over single. The result can even go as far as ending up in an unhappy marriage. Raising kids and teaching them that "this is love" when you really are only staying together for them. That I know is a bit dramatic but it really isn't if you think about it. 


We get out of high school and we're already supposed to have a first love by then. We're considered weird if we haven't. Why is that? 

To share a little about my dating life: On dates guys are shocked to find out that i've never been in love. I've never said those four little words because they actually mean something to me. In a generation that says that word so many times it's become as useful as a hello or a goodbye. My favorite phrase though is "why is a girl like you single?" again this whole single thing comes off as a downer. Why is it viewed as such a negative thing to be single? To wait for something earth shattering, mind boggling, and life changing? Why should I waste my precious time on mediocre and most importantly waste another's time if I know they aren't exactly what I want? You know how people say "You know when you know?" It's the same when you know they aren't really what you want. I'm not saying don't date. YOU SHOULD DATE. You should go on as many dates as you want. Figure out what it is that excites you! Why settle? Oh is it because you feel lonely?  That's a load of crap and you know it. You my dear won't find love that way you'll find attention and seeking attention is like loading a gun. Its fun at first but that drawback stings and you'll end up broken. 


 If we were taught at a younger age that we are whole all by ourselves and shown how to love ourselves so fiercely I think the world would be a different place. I think it's SO important to teach and spread self love. To find what makes YOU happy. Every little thing. Work more on loving yourself. Whatever comes will come. Whoever wants to be in your life it will be VERY APPARENT; whoever is meant to leave WILL leave. So here's to you, my single ladies remember your worth a million bucks so stop letting them treat you like a penny. You are incredibly amazing! Just keep doing what makes you happy and enjoy the single times! 


Let's start changing the way we think about being single because it's not a horrible dreadful thing. It's an incredibly amazing thing to really know and love yourself!

XOXO, Ashley Prybycien








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  1. Thank you for this post. I agree completely and have been saying this for years. Approaching 30 I continue to get the ,"don't worry you'll find him" speech. It's nice to know there are others out there like me. Thank you again for your post!!

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